Middle life Crisis

                                                                                                                                           Heard of the word “Middle lIfe crisis”?...does it indicate a “crisis”?...does it mean- it happens only in your ‘Middle Age”?....

The Below is entirely my Point of View....I am not even a  Psychologist..so..I could be entirely wrong...But hear me out....

Middle life crisis usually suggests that , there comes a Time in your life- when the ‘Initial’ Goals , you have set in your “early stage of your Life” have been completed....for example: You are Told- Study Hard, get a Good Job, get married, have kids, Build a house, set up a good business etc etc..and you have ‘Made’ it in your life......you get the Drift, right?...So, you study well, Get a Good Job, Get married ( not a acheivement, as such), have kids , Build a house or a Business.( or atleast, the EMI’s have started and you are confident-you can pay it on time).....and then what Happens?...do you get a Placard from heaven  saying “ hey, you have Made it in life”...no, right?....something doesnt feel right.....something feels Missing, isnt it?....

.well...This is one of the Definations of “middle Life Crisis”.....let me put a simpler example...suppose there is a ten storied building...and people all around say- get to the top  floor- Thats the Goal in life......so, you huff and puff all the way and you reach the Top floor...what do you see? The top floor...what else?....it feels like a let down, in some ways.....  when does this happen?  Well- it depends on when you have acheived the above list( List is just a Indicator)...usually for most people- this happens between the age 35 to 45 years.....because thats the time usually required to acheive all the above in normal cases( Ofcourse there will be exceptions, due to many reasons)....  

what happens that time ?...you know- all the boxes have been clicked( most of them atleast)...but the sense of fulfillment seems to be missing...The  ‘Euphoria’ of acheiving it doesnt seem to be sustaining....  How do people usually react to this Crisis?  ( its not a Crisis as per normal definations..)...you do ‘more’ of some things...to get the ‘Chaska’ or the ‘Thrill’( I am not getting the right word here)...you shop more, you eat more, you drink more...in some cases extra marital affairs have also happenned.....you could be doing ‘more’ of any of this or more of something else.....The keyword is ‘more’....But it wont make any difference....  

I am telling you all this- because I encountered the above.... when I was maybe 37-38 probably.( My Home Loans were nearly over, my Financial condition was getting stable in a way).....for some 2/3 years...I couldnt figure out what was happenning.....Fortunately,something happenned in my life at that time....and thats how that “Midlife crisis’ got solved for me.........................Remember: Doing ‘More’ will not work at that time......The earlier you realise-the sooner you will search for the Real Solution.🙏

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